No Sweet Dreams for Couple at Bedtime

DEAR DR. ELLIS:

I’m married. Every night my husband “tells” me when it’s time for us to retire for the night.

This can be anytime from 9:30 to 11:30 p.m. If I tell him that I’m ready for bed he gets upset.

If he’s ready to get into bed, and I want to finish a book I’m reading, he gets upset.

According to him, married men and women should go to bed “together,” period! ( absolutely )

It is always on his timetable. ( schedule )

Needless to say,( obviously )we have gone to bed angry many times.

How do we figure it out ( solution ) without getting angry and resenting each other?